The Father Wound Part 2 w/ Amir Khalighi: Judgment, the Lone Wolf Trap, and Re-Fathering Yourself
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The Father Wound Part 2 w/ Amir Khalighi: Judgment, the Lone Wolf Trap, and Re-Fathering Yourself

In Part 2 of our conversation with Amir Khalighi, we move from uncovering the father wound to exploring what it takes to heal it. Why are so many men with this wound quick to judge—others, themselves, and especially other men? How does hypervigilance become a way of life? And what does it take to re-father ourselves and trust again?

We talk about the lone wolf archetype, how judgment protects what we’re not ready to feel, and why healing doesn’t require reconciling with your father—but it does require showing up for yourself.

🎧 If you’ve ever struggled to ask for help, receive love, or trust other men… this conversation is for you.

🔗 Learn more about Amir’s upcoming free workshop on Healing the Father Wound: https://embodiedmasculine.com/healing-the-father-wound/

Full Episode Time Markers

00:00 – Welcome back & episode setup
02:05 – How to know if you carry a father wound
05:45 – Hypervigilance and nervous system regulation
09:50 – The lone wolf archetype and self-isolation
14:15 – What we miss without a present father figure
18:22 – Re-fathering yourself as an adult man
22:03 – The power of safe containers in men’s work
27:45 – Why judgment blocks healing
33:10 – Amir’s story: somatic reconnection with his father
39:20 – Healing the wound without needing reconciliation
42:30 – Projecting the father wound onto other men & leaders
48:00 – Tim’s story: transformation through trust
53:20 – How healing shifts generational lines
57:45 – Breaking the sound barrier: a metaphor for inner work
1:00:40 – Presence as true power
1:03:55 – How to take your rightful place in your lineage
1:07:10 – Resources, workshops, and how to begin

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Creators and Guests

Eric Bomyea
Host
Eric Bomyea
Eric Bomyea has a curiosity for life and a passion for personal growth. While his journey into men’s work and spirituality is relatively new, he has found a deep connection through attending Tim's embodiment circle for the past year. Eric is currently training in the Transpersonal Facilitation Program under the guidance of Amir Khalighi. Having been sober for almost two years, his path has been one of self-discovery and exploring new ways to show up authentically. He approaches men’s work with humility and an open heart, eager to dive deeper into the unknown alongside his friend and co-host, Tim
Timothy Bish
Host
Timothy Bish
Timothy Bish has been a dedicated student of personal growth and spirituality for as long as he can remember. His journey began in New York City at the Jivamukti Yoga School, where he became an Advanced Certified Jivamukti Yoga Teacher. This practice ignited his passion for physical and subtle body wellness, leading him to explore Acupuncture and Chinese Medicine. During the pandemic, Tim discovered Men’s Work and completed the Men’s Wisdom Work coach training program in 2020. He then met his current teacher, Amir Khalighi, with Embodied Masculine, and completed the Men's Wisdom Initiation Program, as well as Levels 1 and 2 of the Transpersonal Facilitation Training. Tim now serves as the lead assistant for that program alongside Amir. In addition to coaching and facilitating, Tim is the founder of the Men’s Embodiment Circle in Provincetown, where he continues to help men on their journey of personal and spiritual growth
Amir Khalighi
Guest
Amir Khalighi
Born in Tehran, Iran, and raised by a single mother, his perspective of life during his early years was observed through the prism of the feminine, with no mature masculine figure to learn from nor lean on until his early 20s. His natural inclination for separation from that dynamic was a destructive one from the age of 19 to 22. At 23, he found his first men’s group, where elders exemplified what it meant to be a mature masculine in the world. His journey into self-actualization started during his college years with studies in the fields of existential philosophy and comparative religious studies. His work with men started at the age of 23. Through his 20s and 30s, he worked with hundreds of men centered around addictive behaviors and also through the discipline of martial arts. Subsequently, his work has matured and now encompasses Jungian archetypal, somatic healing, Shamanism, and embodiment methodology. His passion in the field of men’s work has been most influenced by mythopoetic men’s work, Sufi mysticism, yogic intimacy, Celtic mythology, Shamanism, Hermeticism, Western esotericism & Jungian archetypal psychology (see our lineage page for a deeper look). He has dedicated his life and purpose to connecting men to "The Great Mother" (the feminine expression of the Divinity (The manifest) and empowering these men to live in alignment with their soul's calling in order to live purpose-driven lives... helping them embody their natural, God-given masculine energies in a new emerging paradigm of masculinity, balanced in relationship to their feminine counterparts. Most of the men that make their way to Amir did not have a positive masculine role model that they could rely on growing up... men with wounds of the absent father. “We teach what we’ve overcome.” His work spans over 30 years in men's work and private coaching. With the founding of Embodied Masculine™ in 2018, he has expanded his message and unique approach to men's work into transformative workshops, group coaching, initiation programs (MWI), and facilitator training programs (TFTP). He has been invited as a guest speaker, keynote speaker & lead facilitator for various men’s groups and retreats worldwide. His writing can be found in various publications, and his message can be heard on podcasts and conferences such as the Embodiment Conference. Amir is also the founder of BelovedPoetry.com, where he renders the works of such masters as Jalāl ad-Dīn Muhammad Rūmī, Hafiz, Pablo Neruda, and more. He has worked with many men from all walks of life, from high-caliber Fortune 500 CEOs, influencers, and artists to young men starting on their path. He is a teacher, coach, speaker, artist, and poet. He is married to the love of his life, Keri, and is the father to two daughters and two love-daughters (stepdaughters).