In this episode of The Circle, we explore forgiveness not as a final destination, but as a living, breathing process. From unspoken resentments to painful memories of being let down, Eric and Tim share personal stories about parental wounds and what it means to carry the weight of hurt for years.This conversation unpacks:Why forgiveness isn’t the same as forgettingHow resentment impacts our nervous systems and relationshipsThe role of safety, grief, and compassion in the forgiveness processWhat it looks like to forgive without needing the other person to changeIf you’ve ever struggled to let go of a grudge, or felt the pressure to "just move on," this one’s for you. What’s one weight you’ve been carrying that might be ready to soften?Practice with us and explore embodiment tools for relational repair: 👉 https://myembodiment.comChapter Markers / Time Stamps:00:00 - Intro: Forgiveness as a Practice01:00 - What Forgiveness Really Means03:05 - Forgiveness ≠ Forgetting06:42 - The Weight We Carry: Resentment and Memory08:58 - Not Letting Go, but Lightening the Load11:31 - When Forgiveness Isn’t Closure13:30 - Parental Wounds and Resentment15:50 - Reframing the Past: Seeing with Softer Eyes18:10 - Tim’s Story: Turning Mom into Wonder Woman20:42 - The Cost of Idealization and the Gift of Reality24:30 - Bragging as a Search for Safety27:25 - From Villainizing to Understanding30:01 - Big Hurt, No Villain: How Forgiveness Actually Starts33:40 - Beliefs that Block Forgiveness36:15 - The Band Camp Story: When They Didn’t Show Up

In this episode of The Circle, Eric and Tim are joined by Tim Neal, a men’s transformation coach and embodiment facilitator, to explore the power of parts work. Drawing from Internal Family Systems (IFS) and shadow work, Tim explains how the voices inside us, like the inner critic or perfectionist, are not problems to fix, but parts to understand, honor, and integrate.Through personal storytelling, emotional insights, and a live parts work practice, the conversation reveals how embracing these inner parts can lead to emotional intelligence, self-trust, and what Tim calls the “centered self.” Whether you’re new to IFS or deep in your healing work, this episode will shift how you relate to your inner world.You’ll learn:What parts work is and how it relates to shadow workThe difference between exile parts and protector partsWhy trying to eliminate parts of yourself doesn’t workHow emotional awareness is the foundation of growthHow to meet your parts with compassion and curiosityChapter Markers / Time Stamps:0:00 – Intro to the episode and Tim Neal2:15 – What is parts work? Tim’s childhood story of emotional shutdown6:50 – Origins of Internal Family Systems (IFS) and blending with shadow work9:30 – Shadow work as a subset of parts work12:00 – Tim’s inner critic origin story and the rise of the achiever part15:20 – The Tony Robbins experience as a pattern interrupt18:10 – Masculinity, vulnerability, and redefining strength20:40 – The pressure to be one thing vs. embracing many parts24:00 – Mono-mind vs. multi-mind: the freedom of “a part of me”27:30 – Introducing the capital-S Self / Centered Self29:50 – Pattern interrupts, neural pathways, and belief shifts34:00 – Manager parts, exiles, and protectors explained38:00 – The fruit salad metaphor: integration, not elimination41:00 – What is the Centered Self? The goal of living from calm, clarity, and compassion43:30 – Why we can’t “cut off” our inner parts (like a sprained ankle)46:20 – The role of emotional intelligence in working with parts48:00 – Live guided practice: meeting your inner part with compassion52:15 – Eric meets his inner critic, Tim meets his inner director54:30 – What our parts are really afraid of—and how they’re trying to help56:00 – Closing reflections: parts work as a path toward self-compassionStay Connected with The CircleInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/queermensembodiment/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDCAp8OFjLrGaAwycfGmydgWebsite & Community: www.MyEmbodiment.com

What’s the difference between truly belonging and just fitting in? In this raw and resonant episode of The Circle, Eric and Tim unpack the subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways we abandon ourselves in order to be accepted—and what it takes to stop. They explore how social conditioning, internalized fear, and curated identities shape our choices around how we show up in community, especially in queer spaces.Eric shares his personal experience of feeling isolated during Bear Week in Provincetown, while Tim opens up about the cost of being too playful, too much, or too real. Together, they discuss the relationship between control, safety, and self-trust—and how embodiment practices, affirmation, and conscious spaces can help us come home to ourselves.This is a must-listen for anyone navigating identity, authenticity, or the messy middle between self-protection and self-expression.Timestamps:00:00–04:20 — Intro: The difference between belonging and fitting in04:21–14:10 — Tim’s fashion story: authenticity vs. curation14:11–20:50 — Expertise vs. people-pleasing, and the role of intention20:51–27:45 — The hidden cost of hiding parts of ourselves27:46–36:10 — Embodied loneliness: fitting in but still feeling alone36:11–44:30 — Tim’s story: playfulness, performance, and the pain of not being seen44:31–52:40 — The illusion of belonging on Instagram; the craving for connection52:41–59:00 — Embodiment and nervous system tools to anchor authenticity59:01–1:05:10 — Safe spaces vs. performative ones: building real community1:05:11–1:13:30 — Inner belonging, affirmations, and the challenge of loving all parts1:13:31–1:22:00 — The need for community, checking in, and not feeling like a burden1:22:01–End — Wrap-up: Sass, solitude, and the sacred work of showing upStay Connected with The CircleInstagram: @queermensembodimentYouTube: Queer Men’s EmbodimentWebsite & Community: www.MyEmbodiment.com

What if rest was the most dominant thing you could do?In this episode of the Circle, trauma-informed BDSM educator, licensed life coach, and former Dominatrix Ms. Elle X joins us to explore the hidden cost of leadership—and why so many men, Dominants, and space-holders burn out before they ever give themselves permission to stop. We talk about the shame that makes rest feel dangerous, how insecurity fuels overwork, and why true power comes from knowing when to say “no.” Ms. Elle reframes rest as radical self-advocacy, drawing a bold parallel between consent and rest: you can’t authentically say yes if you’re unwilling to say no.Whether you lead in the bedroom, the boardroom, or at home, this episode will challenge everything you think you know about strength, power, and the courage it takes to rest.___Glossary of Terms:What is BDSM? – An acronym for Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, Sadism, and Masochism. It refers to consensual practices that explore power exchange, sensation, and psychological play. At its core, BDSM is about communication, consent, and creating safe, intentional spaces for exploring power and desire.What is a Dominant (Dom/Domme)? – The person who takes the leadership or guiding role in a BDSM dynamic. A Dominant holds space, sets structure, and creates safety, allowing the Submissive to fully let go. In healthy dynamics, the Dominant’s power is rooted in consent, responsibility, and respect.What is a Submissive (Sub)? – The person who consensually surrenders control in a BDSM dynamic. For many, this surrender can feel deeply restful, freeing them from decision-making or the pressure of constant responsibility. Submissives are not passive; their active consent, communication, and boundaries are essential to the dynamic.What is D/S? - Refers specifically to the dynamic or relationship between a Dominant and a Submissive. This can be sexual or non-sexual and is centered on consensual power exchange, clear communication, and trust.What is a Switch? – A person who enjoys both Dominant and Submissive roles, depending on the context or partner. Switches may move fluidly between roles, and this flexibility often gives them deep empathy and insight into both sides of the power exchange.____Rest, burnout, and radical self-advocacy—Ms. Elle X on why leaders struggle to slow down and how boundaries restore power.Timestamps:00:00 Introduction and Podcast Overview00:23 Exploring the Hidden Cost of Leadership01:33 The Struggle with Rest and Insecurity05:41 The Importance of Consent and Boundaries13:31 Self-Awareness and Embodiment Work21:40 The Role of Rest in BDSM24:58 Being Seen and Valued in Relationships29:06 Dominance and Submission (D/S) Dynamics32:53 The Universal Lessons of BDSM34:56 The Importance of Humility in Leadership37:50 Navigating Trust and Safety in Relationships39:58 Understanding Rejection Sensitivity43:53 Balancing Dominance and Vulnerability49:56 The Power of Rest and Boundaries59:32 Concluding Thoughts and Reflections____Connect with Us & Ms. Elle XStay Connected with The CircleInstagram: @queermensembodimentYouTube: Queer Men’s EmbodimentWebsite & Community: MyEmbodiment.comConnect with Ms. Elle XInstagram: @thewisedommeYouTube: Ms. Elle XPatreon & Discord Community: Join #ElleXArmyIf this episode resonated with you, share it, leave a review, and tag us—we love hearing what landed for you. And if you’re ready to explore conscious kink, self-advocacy, and empowered relationships, go follow Ms. Elle X—her wisdom is next level.

Urgency doesn’t have to mean rushing. In this episode of The Circle, Eric Bomyea and Timothy Bish explore urgency and embodiment, unpacking how to move quickly with purposeful action instead of reactive rushing.Drawing from personal stories—airport chaos, bartending mishaps, and even Tim’s professional dance training—they discuss how urgency impacts the nervous system, why it often feeds perfectionism, and how to regulate it through embodiment practices.You’ll learn:The difference between rushing vs. moving with purposeHow to recognize physical signs of urgency in the bodySimple mindfulness and nervous system tools to stay grounded under pressureHow to turn urgency into an embodied spark for action rather than a source of stressPerfect for anyone navigating busy days, high-pressure moments, or exploring men’s work and embodiment practices to stay present and steady.Chapter Markers0:00 – Welcome & Introduction2:10 – Urgency as a Learned Survival Tool7:35 – The Difference Between Moving Quickly and Rushing11:50 – Physical Signs of Rushing vs. Purposeful Movement17:05 – Ayurvedic & Yogic Perspectives on Natural Pace22:40 – Airport Stories: Regulating in High-Pressure Moments30:55 – Internal vs. External Urgency: Creating It from Care & Purpose38:20 – Fitness, Perfectionism, and Rushing the Body44:10 – Urgency as a Spiritual Spark (Kirtan & Longing)50:25 – Embodiment Tools to Work with Urgency55:40 – Closing Reflections & Takeaways